Sublimation 3: A Key To Life Change?

So you wanted to lose some weight this year and decided to stop eating sweets. It didn’t work. You swore you’d stop yelling at your kids, but you continue to do so. You know you have to stop worrying all the time, but you can’t seem to stop.

Why? One reason is probably because you didn’t sublimate. The last few days we’ve seen that sublimating is to replace a negative behavior with a positive, and that the idea (though not the word) is taught in the Bible. And it’s one of the keys to life change. Our problem is that we try to stop doing something, without starting doing something else to fill the void. We need to sublimate.

So … you’re gonna stop eating sweets? What are you going to eat to replace them? If you leave that gap unfilled, sweets will come back to fill it. You’re going to stop yelling at your kids? Well, what are you going to do with the anger when it starts swelling up? You won’t be able to just stuff it, so if you don’t have a plan for it, you’ll end up yelling at your kids again. You want to stop worrying? What are you going to do instead of worrying when your problems and fears come to mind?

Think about the changes you wanted to but didn’t make, the resolutions you made but didn’t keep. Is it possible that the problem was you didn’t sublimate?