Last weekend at Verve we talked about dating and asked the question: When are you ready to get married? Answer: When you don’t need to get married. You’re not ready to get married until you’ve learned that God is enough and can meet all your needs.
You were designed to have your soul filled with God and to be loved perfectly by Him. But if you haven’t learned the most important lesson, that God is enough, then you’ll get married looking to your spouse to fill you up and love you perfectly … and your spouse can’t do that. You’ll put too much weight, too much pressure, on your marriage, and it will strain and probably destroy it. You’re not ready to get married until you’ve learned that God is enough and can meet all your needs.
And if you are married and your marriage is struggling, I bet this is the reason. If you haven’t given God a place in your life where He can be enough for you and meet your needs, you will look to your spouse for the perfect love only He can give. And no wonder it isn’t working.